In a bout of domesticity the other night (I can’t remember which night as it is something I would generally not like to remember) I actually moved the couch to sweep and mop, as opposed to cleaning around them and hoping no one would ever look remotely in the direction.
Anyway, I moved the couch back into position, unable to further contribute to domesticity due to clean but wet floors, I pulled up a seat in the corner of the couch. I reached over to grab the remote to start flicking through the channels and saw a mark on the couch. Being a mum and ever so practical, I tried to use a glob of spit on my finger to wipe off the mark. When I looked closer, the ‘mark’ was actually a beautiful picture drawn on the brown leather, with pen!
I was pissed off, but the drawing was there and I couldn’t do much about it. It was clearly girl-child’s drawing as it was a heart head person, drawn in the style she was ever so fond of a few months ago (does that give you an indication of how often a chocolate coloured leather couch needs cleaning?). I thought about getting out the cleaning products and trying to get rid of the ‘mark’ on the couch but quickly changed my mind.
Why would I not attempt to cleaning the drawing from the couch?
a) it would be hard to discuss with girl-child the implications of drawing on furniture if said drawing was removed,
b) the floors were still wet, I don’t want to undo all my cleaning work
c) what cleaning products (how do I know how to clean leather without first googling?)
d) why clean, the couch is still comfortable, and besides there is an interesting tv show about to start
e) all of the above!
Naturally, response E was the winner! So for the days following the discovery of the heart shaped face on the couch, I have tried to discuss with girl-child why the drawing was on the couch and how it got there. She was very aloof and didn’t want to discuss what she could clearly see was drawn on the couch. Instead of being hysterical about it (and I had every damn right to be hysterical – the couch is the most expensive piece of furniture we own) I tried to calmly discuss why drawing on anything other than paper was inappropriate. That seemed to work, girl-child could list all the places she wasn’t allowed to draw, that she has in the past drawn on – her pyjamas, her body, her bed, dolls furniture… the list was quite extensive. She was able to say that drawings are best on something that isn’t precious and that can be kept and displayed for everyone to enjoy.
I was feeling positive, as she was recognising the errors of her way I asked the most important question – “so how did your heart shaped face get on to the couch?” The responses varied from the fairies put it there to it was magic or my friends did it. This changed the discussion to the importance of telling the truth. Trying to explain to a 4 year old that I am not upset about the picture on the couch (at least not visibly and audibly in front of her) but I am very upset about her not telling the truth.
Around here, not telling the truth results in the loss of a gem (I will explain more about that in another post at another time). For 3 days, girl-child resisted telling the truth, the gems weren’t working. She would say that she was tricking me. Whenever I asked if she wanted to discuss the couch, she would go into sullen mode. She was unable to speak due to trying not to cry. Instead she would squeak or grunt a response. It was amazingly difficult not to laugh in her face.
Eventually we decided that gem bribery or deprivation wasn’t working, we had to take drastic measures. It was time to cancel all home craft projects. I was excited, it meant that there would be no more paper scraps, beads, pens and string all over the floor.
This afternoon, shopping for a birthday present for a friend of girl-child, she realised the errors of her way. We were buying a giant package of art and craft items and for the first time ever girl-child didn’t get any new craft stuff. Finally, on the way home from the shops, girl-child told me all about drawing on the couch. She told me all about how she drew the picture and then tried to rub it off. It wouldn’t come off no matter how hard she tried. She was really upset and I could barely contain my smiles – girl-child finally told the truth.
The picture remains on the couch, as a constant reminder of being honest and of knowing where it is appropriate to draw. Besides, the picture is kind of cute!