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Embarrassing

November 8, 2009 · Leave a Comment

There is a reason that I am the one that normally has the camera and is taking the photos.  Very occasionally I let others take photos of me.  I have just flicked through the photos that girl-child took yesterday and realised that my eyebrows are all wrong, clearly I am long overdue to make a visit to the fur shop (the place of hair removal to normal people).  Apparently having legs that are so hairy you could pass for an ape isn’t enough to make me realise that a trip to the fur shop is well overdue but that is another story.

Mouse Me

Mouse Me!

The photo also reminds me of a few other things – one is that I hate photos but am occasionally happy to make a fool of myself for everyone to see even if I did refuse to leave the house looking like a mouse.  Two, perhaps a 6 year old isn’t the best person to do my face painting.  On the up side – having her clean the face paint off my face was a little like a massage!

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Birthday Parties – Breaking My Own Rules

October 25, 2009 · 1 Comment

This week I have broken most of my self imposed rules, one of which relates specifically to birthday celebrations.  I ‘don’t do birthday parties‘ for the kids every year, instead the celebrator can take a friend and go to the movies and have a sleep over (hasn’t happened yet) or we have cake in the park with a few friends (generally 3 or 4) on the day and we always have a family and friends barbeque the following weekend.  Now that seems like it should be simple right?  Well when I found out that there were only 7 girls in girl-child’s class and she was inviting 4 of them to her ‘cake in the park shindig’ and then realised that another girl and her sister would just turn up and eat cake as she lives opposite the park there would only be 2 girls in her class that wouldn’t be invited.  That was when I relented and allowed her to invite the 7 girls.  Add on neighbours, walk-bys and siblings and all of a sudden the small gathering became a rather large gathering.  It wasn’t too much of a hassle, in fact it was fun, however I did break my rules.

Then we get to the friends and family barbeque that kind of grew larger than expected.  It started just as us, my parents, Lil Sis and Billy.  Being a school girl now, girl-child doesn’t often get to see one of her oldest and best friend who goes to another school many suburbs away so we have to wait until weekend to catch up so of course we invited her and her family over.  Surprising all of us was the other Grandma and Aunt who came to visit, something that happens very infrequently.  Then of course what is a barbeque without neighbours so add a few more families to the ‘guest list’ and before we knew it the house was overflowing and a real celebration was in swing.

All the kids ate and then jumped in to the hot tub to splash away the afternoon until it was cake time.


More Birthday CakeMore Birthday Cake

So for someone who doesn’t do birthday parties I feel as if I have allowed girl-child to celebrate a little too much.  Now ordinarily going over the top wouldn’t be such a bad thing normally but boy-child has missed out entirely.  His birthday is in the week before the school year begins.  He wanted to invite a friend over for a wii day and maybe a sleep over but this ‘friend’ would only come over if another boy would be there too – another boy that I really don’t like.  Besides, what does it say if a kid will only come over if they can bring their own friend.

I had visions of boy-child being excluded and having a horrible day so we were able to convince him to postpone his celebration until school started back and he could invite new friends from his new class.  Of course as wonderful as that sounded, he didn’t really settle in well.  Before he had a chance to make any new friends he dislocated his elbow and broke his arm and became even more isolated.  By the time he recovered it was the middle of Winter, 6 months after his birthday and man-child’s birthday.  The following holidays the weather was better but he was back in hospital for more surgery so there wasn’t much point in having a party then either.

The poor boy did have a small family shindig but hasn’t celebrated his birthday with friends, he didn’t even complain when girl-child had a ‘real birthday party’.  I feel so guilty about him missing out that I know that I will continue to break my party rules and he too will have a real birthday party next year.

All the motherguilt aside, the birthday celebrations were fun, the weekend was great and exhausting.  Perhaps I need to review my set of rules, take a chill pill and just have fun.

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Catch Up Time

September 14, 2009 · 2 Comments

Many times over the past few days I have thought of awesomely interesting blog posts, well at least one interesting blog post but I have been too busy, lazy or distracted to actually blog.  Then as I have the memory capacity of a door knob I promptly forgot what I was planning on blogging.  That brings me to now with too much I want to say or comment upon, yet without the intellect to actually do so coherently so instead I go for the cop-out bullet post.  Here we go again…

  • I made cookies yesterday but couldn’t be bothered hanging around the house for them to all cook.  I cooked one batch and put the rest of the dough in the fridge so I could have fresh cookies next weekend for Lil Sis’s baby shower.  The logic was sound but have I ever mentioned how much I LOVE cookie dough?  I have been snacking on it all evening.  I even made them gluten free so I don’t have any unexpected cramps from eating too much!
  • Just when you start to feel really good about an achievement, you read an unexpected status update that hits you for a six.  I am feeling good about being able to run for 5km in a decent enough time without feeling like I am going to die, then read that a friend who is not in the least way athletic (not actually saying that I am) updates her status saying that she only had time to run 9+km today before she had to pick up her kids.  I mean I am awesomely happy for her but damn why can’t I run that far, or why can’t I find/make the time to even try to run further?  How do I find extra hours in the day to try?
  • In other running related news, my ankle still hurts, in fact it is more of a cankle than an ankle.  Although it is swollen it isn’t bruised at all so there is no point in taking photos of it to try an elicit sympathy.  In fact it is quite bizarre in that it doesn’t hurt when I run or walk but it aches when I sit or stand.  Go figure?
  • It took all day yesterday to clean up the bomb site that the monsters kids have been calling their bedroom.  That said, all the things I couldn’t find a house for in their room is now in tubs and boxes in the study just waiting for me to sort through.  Somehow doing a bullet post cop out blog is more exciting than sorting through the rest of the mess.
  • The above said mess is so great that I am forced to sit on the floor beside the couch as there is no room on the couch.  I really should be sorting it out…
  • We have ordered yet another bookcase for downstairs, just another storage facility to hide crap so hopefully I don’t have to spend as much time sorting, culling and reorganising.
  • The more I sit in this room the more I realise there is a faint underlying urine odour.  The stupid geriatric cat has peed behind the tv cabinet again.  I tried to kill the smell yesterday and succeeded in melting away the top layers of my fingernails with hydrogen peroxide.  Not so clever but it did remove much of the smell.
  • And speaking of geriatric cats – I was all set for a long luxurious sleep in yesterday, both kids were away and man-child had gone downstairs to waste time and money playing poker online.  There was no reason at all to get up until she puked on the bedroom floor.  It was by far the worst smelling cat puke ever and woke me from my slumber in the most disturbing fashion.
  • We had to cancel a picnic meeting with friends yesterday afternoon as girl-child had a low grade fever and was complaining of a major headache, nothing major probably as a result of staying up late.  I desperately wanted to go to the picnic but it wouldn’t have been fair to share whatever was ailing her with other friends, especially as they have just returned from the Philippines where they adopted the most adorable boy ever.
  • As for fever, the beautiful Bianca spent her last day of chemo in hospital instead of celebrating.  The good news is she is home now and looking as gorgeous as ever, drop by her blog to see just how amazing she and her family truly are!
  • In other news, elements of work were shown in a doco on TV last night so I spent the better part of today explaining my role to the well-intentioned people wanting to know how they could be a part.  It wasn’t exactly how I had planned to spend the day and not entirely productive.
  • The work day improved and ended with a fantastic discussion with a group of teens about their cyber footprint and how they live in an online world.

So there it is, how I have spent the last few days.   I have been busy in other areas that are not so ‘exciting’, in fact they were downright draining but they are other people’s stories so I will leave it there.  My dilemma now, clean up the mess, watch tv or read blogs?  Perhaps I should try multi task and do an ordinary job of all three!

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The Day is Getting Better

August 12, 2009 · 1 Comment

So it is mid afternoon and I have to say that the day has improved.  Work was work-like but not too tragic, except for the notification that I need to start work at 6.30am on Friday morning.  I had to leave early to take boy-child in to the hospital for a review of his bionic elbow.  I preempted a long long sit at the hospital waiting.  I was organised, we had a lunch box, a snack bag, kid books, a book for me and a fully charged phone.  Surely that would cover us for the potentially huge wait.  He was in and out for the xray and then it was time to go see the orthopedic surgical consultant.  The appointments are scheduled for an hour apart but it seems that the times are arbitrary so we went straight upstairs.  It is never a good sign when you arrive at the clinic to be confronted with a sign saying the clinic is closed for lunch and will re-open at 1.30pm and it was only 1pm.  Out come the supplies and we settled in to wait.  The waiting area filled quickly.  Soon there were no seats left and still more people were arriving and I was happy to have my book.

Eventually the reception area re-opened.  Boy-child showed very assertive skills, surely not inherited from me, and was able to gain his rightful place in line to go through to the clinic.  Still, I wasn’t sure if appointment times would be adhered to, so I kept my book out and boy child was happy to keep playing on my phone.  Let’s say that I was pleasantly surprised when we were called through to see our doctor right on the scheduled appointment time.  The doctor is lovely and is very pleased with the way that boy-child’s arm has healed.  He has regained about 90% of his extension and full flexion.  He almost has full rotation and no pain, even when you press on the screw that is now visible since the swelling has finally reduced.  In fact he is so pleased with the progress that he has started the progress of booking him in for surgery – at this stage in late September, during the school holidays.

We were in and out in plenty of time.  I didn’t even have to worry about getting a parking ticket.  (Of course I am too tight to pay for parking at the hospital, instead we park around the corner where it is free for 2 hours and then a ginormous ticket after that!)  We even had time to do a grocery shop before heading back to collect girl-child from school.  Despite spending an hour trying to arrange a contingency plan for girl-child to be collected from school should the need arise, I was glad to be back in time to collect her myself.  (Thanks for being there to help out again E.)

By the time we all made it home, I was starving.  Just because I was clever enough to have packed a snack bag doesn’t mean I was smart enough to eat any of it.  I couldn’t decide what I wanted to eat so I convinced girl-child to bake a cake so that I could eat the batter.  We both ate way too much batter, bringing on a sugar rush head spin but it was worth it, it was totally delicious.

The cake is cooked but looks like half a cake, I think we ate far too much.  I will include girl-child in the blame game for this although she ate very little batter and instead ate cheese.  Perhaps we should have used a smaller tin but I figure that the larger the surface area of the cake the more frosting it requires and now that the cake is cooked it is all about the frosting!

I am sure that by the time I finish (I need to start first) putting the shopping away the cake will be cool enough to frost and I will be ready for another sugar rush.  That sugar rush will pass and then it will be time for take-out, cake and bubbles to celebrate a friends birthday.  First things first, shopping away, feed the kids and settle them in bed and let the relaxation begin.

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Land at the End of the Rainbow

August 4, 2009 · Leave a Comment

I have to say that I feel much better about July having written the epic Goodbye July sagas.  If I can separate the emotional insanity of the month and the fact that we were in another country, with no income, no jobs and totally broke, I can honestly say that we had a fantastic adventure.  It is easier to think of that time in a glass half full way, as a holiday of a lifetime as opposed as a relocation gone haywire.  

I still plan to do a ‘best of’ of our time in the US but for me to actually relive the adventure it needs to be accompanied by photos.  To do that I need to find the external drive that has the bulk of the photos on it because for some reason I didn’t ever get around to updating all the photos to flickr.  That said, there are still plenty of photos there if you want to check them out here.

 In the mean time, I am very happy to be living in Melbourne.  I live in a great community, with an amazing family and wonderful friends.  I really do feel like I live at the land at the end of the rainbow!

 

Afternoon activities halted for a rain dance under the rainbow!

Afternoon activities halted for a rain dance under the rainbow!

 

Of course I wouldn’t say no to another international relocation at some stage in the future – change IS good!

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Goodbye July (pt 3) or Why I Hate July (pt 4)

August 2, 2009 · 3 Comments

Independence Day 2007.

After arriving ‘home’ during the early hours of the morning, we all slept until some time before mid-morning.  I awoke to a monster head cold sinus thing, no doubt from the lovely recirculated air on the plane, physical exhaustion and the fact that the last time I had slept it as in freezing cold Melbourne and now I was in 40 degree New Jersey.  The kids were up and about so there was no time to rest, it was time to explore.

We had been invited to a 4th celebration with a colleague on the Jersey Shore but weren’t sure if we should go, if in fact it was a genuine invitation or more a pity invite.  We weren’t sure of where to go and were all still pretty stuffed so we decided to have a look around the local area instead.  We spent the 4th doing things that I had only seen on TV, things that are similar to what is normal here but dare I say it, oh-so American.

There wasn’t much in the house to eat so first stop was somewhere easy to get food.  I think we ended up at an Applebees.  The kids were rapt – being given paper and crayons upon entering won them over entirely, well that and the giant cups of fizzy drink that unexpectedly came with their meals.  I was overwhelmed at the choice of salad dressings, that and the sheer size of the serves.  I am sure that one meal could have fed the entire family.  Unlike in Melbourne, the food we didn’t eat was automatically packed up for us to take home with us.  That meant that we had an afternoon snack all sorted.

Next stop was a giant shopping mall.  I knew that clothing prices were much better in the US than in Australia, but to be able to buy a complete outfit for both kids, including footwear for little more than $10 amazed me.  It made me wish that we left all of our clothes in Australia and were forced to buy all new clothes.  I could have spent all afternoon wandering the mall but the kids wanted to go out and explore and we still needed to stock up on some real food for the cupboards.  

The remainder of the day was spent exploring neighbourhood parks, playing with all of the toys that were left there yet wondering where all of the kids were.  We managed to find a supermarket and get some essential food to get us through that night and the next few days.

Eventually we headed back to our house to actually explore the place we would be calling home for the next few weeks, until our apartment was ready.

 

The majestic entry

The majestic entry

If I hadn’t already seen our house, seeing the gates to the property would make a person think that they were about to arrive at a mansion.

The 'humble' abode!

The 'humble' abode!

Seeing how beautiful the main house was made me wonder who lived here.  Apparently no one actually lived here, it was used as a weekender only!

Our little cottage was less than majestic but very quaint.

Home Sweet Home

Home Sweet Home

I have no idea why the image is appearing so small here – maybe it is to emphasise just how small the house really was.  That is our car parked out the front and it is actually longer than the house!  OK, admittedly it is a huge car but a huge car doesn’t actually equal a huge house.

The house was tiny.  Downstairs was literally an open area that fit a 4 person dining setting, a small couch and a tiny tv cabinet.  There was a tiny kitchen and two steep narrow staircases, each leading up to a bedroom and bathroom.  The bedrooms were connected by a small ’secret’ door so that we didn’t have to go downstairs and back up again to check on the kids.

A tiny kitchen in a tiny house

A tiny kitchen in a tiny house

I took this photo pressed up against the wall in the kitchen, using no zoom.  There is no way that any one remotely overweight could fit into this kitchen!  I couldn’t imagine much cooking happening in this small space.  As well as there being no space, the facilities were also limited – there was a fridge, sink cooktop and a toaster oven and that was it!

 

Slippery stairs

Slippery stairs

These are the steepest and slipperiest stair I have ever had the pleasure of falling down.  Both staircases were narrow and well worn as you would expect in a building that is over 150 years old.  What made them more difficult to climb was the humidity.  It was so humid that condensation settled on the walls of the stairwell and on the stairs themselves.   Now having moved from a 3 level house both kids were adept at climbing up and down stairs however after falling down myself the kids weren’t allowed to use the stairs themselves unless we were with them, or I wanted to take another photo!

 

At the top of the stairs

At the top of the stairs

The lounge and dining areas were both downstairs.  For some reason the photos make both spaces look larger than they were, there was absolutely no storage areas anywhere.

 

Fine dining

Fine dining

 

The dining room had antique furniture in it, not exactly the furniture I would use for a messy family.  To the right of the dining table was the front door and the other side of the door was the lounge.

 

The lounge

The lounge

Now I don’t know if you have noticed the yellow floral wallpaper?  It really isn’t my style, but in this environment it worked.  What didn’t work was the extra chair that was in the lounge.

 

WTF?

WTF?

Please, a red chair with dog print is wrong in any home!

Both bedrooms were upstairs.  The master bedroom looked like it belonged in a country retreat somewhere, perhaps a bed and breakfast somewhere in the Yarra Valley.  It was really quaint and quite beautiful.

The master suite

The master suite

The little secret door led through to the second bedroom.  When we arrived the room was furnished with a double futon – not the most practical bedroom solution for two restless toddlers.  For the first few days I ended up sleeping between the kids on the futon, trying to get them to stay asleep without kicking each other awake.  Instead they kicked me awake repeatedly.  By the end of night three we had a boys room and a girls room.  My sleep was marginally better with only one child kicking me.  Knowing that the single sex bedroom concept was less than ideal, we went out an purchased junior beds for the kids and we all had a better nights sleep.

New kid-sized beds

New kid-sized beds

Of course with junior beds comes junior bedding – so cute, the bedding and the kids sound asleep in their own beds.

And there you have it, our entire house.  Did you notice the abundance of lamps in the photos?  That would be because there were only 3 actual lights in the entire house – the kitchen and the bathrooms.  Every other room was lit by lamps, that meant that there were lamp cords everywhere, the perfect tripping opportunity for all!  The lamps and the antique furniture helped to make the cottage a kid-friendly environment – NOT!  Despite that, and the fact that it was tiny, for a few weeks it was a place that we could call home. 

The grounds to the main house were beautifully groomed.  There was an undercover walkway from our cottage to the main house where the kids could play out of the sun.  This space became home to a firetruck bed (sans bed) that we found in a carpark and decided it would make a great toy for the kids as we waited patiently for their toys to arrive.

 

the Fire Truck

the Fire Truck

Outside there were plenty of interesting places to explore;

 

The brook (that flooded) at the bottom of the garden

The brook (that flooded) at the bottom of the garden

 

the long grass full of creepy crawlies

the long grass by the forest, full of creepy crawlies

 

the field where the deer used to feed

the field where the deer used to feed

the manicured gardens of the main house

the manicured gardens of the main house

 

 

there were so many places to explore

there were so many places to explore, even corn fields in the distance, on the other side of the brook

 

Scary Crow

Scary Crow

 

We even had our own scare crow (it is no wonder they are called scare crows!)

So there you have it, you have seen the place that we called home for a month.  It was beautiful but it was in the middle of nowhere and not the best place to meet new people and make friends.  Going through all of these photos had made me realise that despite the madness of our time in the US, it was an enjoyable time overall.  

Stay tuned for the next installment – the ‘bits that went wrong!’

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Goodbye July (pt 2) or Why I Hate July (pt 3)

August 2, 2009 · 2 Comments

So at the end of Goodbye July (pt 1) or Why I Hate July (pt 2) we were all packed and ready for our big move to the US of A.  Our flight was departing bright and early on July the 3rd, 2007.  We were all at the airport in plenty of time to check in all of our 3 bajillion suitcases and say goodbye.  

Now everyone that knows me knows that I refer to the point of no return for international flights as the crying doors, the place where even if I don’t know anyone departing I still feel all of the emotion of those around me bidding farewell to their loved ones and more often than not I end up crying.  Well this day was no different to any other day at the crying doors, but it wasn’t as sobbingly distressing as I had imagined it would be.  I guess I was so excited to be embarking on such a huge adventure that I was filled with nervous energy and excitement rather than overwhelming sadness.  Sure there were tears, but most of them were shed by people other than me for a change.  

Finally after saying goodbye to everyone it was time to head through the crying doors, go through immigration and begin the wait until it was time to begin.

Girl-child and skanky bear waiting to board

Girl-child and skanky bear waiting to board

Finally it was time to board.  It was pleasing to know that we weren’t the only family on board.  What was disappointing to see was that because they had the smaller child, they were given the front row with the extra legroom.  Fortunately being in the second row we all had in-seat entertainment.  Boy-child was happy to flick through the channels until he was overcome with sleep.  Girl-child however was filled with energy and wanted to play, not with daddy (he could sleep) but with me.  

 

Talking to skanky bear as boy-child sleeps

Talking to skanky bear as boy-child sleeps

We spent hours wandering up and down the aisle talking to whoever was awake.  She was in a great mood and was flirting with everyone.  It was quite dismaying to have many other passengers comment that they were glad that she was no longer crying and as the ever-so-proud and defensive mother I am, I had to remind them that the crying child was in fact still crying (from exhaustion) and the only noises girl-child had made were shrieks of enjoyment and singing.  We were lucky enough to know staff on board the plane so they kept the food coming and took us for wanders along the aircraft to try and break up the monotony of the flight.

Of course as soon as we landed 12 or was it 14 hours later? and loaded girl-child into the stroller she promptly fell asleep.  It made for a difficult transfer through LAX.  Going through security was more than a little challenging.  We had to unload girl-child from the stroller, fold it up and put through the xray machine, as well as removing batteries from the laptop, taking off shoes and emptying pockets.  I went through holding girl-child, fumbling with one hand trying to get the stroller set up to put her back in, man-child is still loading up the conveyor belt with the stuff from his pockets as boy-child is sent through the beeping doorway.  Of course it beeped and he freaked out, probably not from the beeping itself but most likely from the 2 security dudes that were at least 6 foot tall, yelling at him to step back through the gate.  Now as a 3 year old he had no idea what they were talking about, hell he probably couldn’t understand their accents to even know what they were saying.  I wanted to go back to help him and I was getting yelled at and man-child wasn’t allowed through to get him and bring him back through the gate.  It ended up with all of us yelling and finally man-child was allowed to go through the security gate to get boy-child, take him back through to remove his belt that had a tiny metal clip on it.  Eventually we all made it through security and had a few hours wait for our next flight.  

Sleeping at LAX

Sleeping at LAX

Fortunately girl-child slept through the entire debacle.  In fact she slept through LA entirely!  Naturally she woke in time to board the flight and find our seats.  

Our seating arrangements on this flight left much to be desired.  Now 2 adults traveling with 2 children you would assume would all be sitting together, particularly as our flights were booked early and we checked in early but unfortunately that would imply that someone was applying logic.  We were sitting with 2 seats together and the other seats were singles.  Now I have no idea how they thought that was going to work, which child was going to sit on their own, the 2 year old or the 18 month old?  Perhaps they were to sit together and we would sit on our own.  Needless to say we kicked up a stink.  The best they could do was get us 2 lots of 2 seats together, one pair in front of the other.

Not surprisingly, girl-child had had all the sleep she needed on the floor at LAX and she was ready for more play time with mama.  By the time the flight landed I was beyond exhausted.  I hadn’t closed my eyes for more than 5 minutes in more than 24 hours and we still had to collect our luggage, clear customs and find our car.  

Eventually with all of our belongings found – 5 suitcases, 2 carry on cases, a suit bag, laptop bag, baby backpack, stroller, kids carry on bags and nappy bags, we headed out to find our new car.

Will all of this fit into the car?

Will all of this fit into the car?

Luckily the car was huge, even then we only just fit all of our stuff into it.  

 

The ginormous Dodge, one of the cars that would be ours.

The ginormous Dodge, one of the cars that would be ours.

The drive from Newark to Princeton was a blur.  I remember we picked up some drive-thru to have as a midnight snack and that was about it.  When we finally made it to Princeton, man-child struggled to remember which way to go to get to our house.  I do remember missing a turnoff and shortly thereafter missing a deer that was standing on the middle of the road.  Luckily we missed the deer and found the turnoff and eventually found our new house in the dark, arriving at our new home in the early hours of the 4th of July.  I was too tired to do anything but tuck the kids into bed and fall into bed myself.  Exploring my new home would have to wait until I was awake enough to string together a coherent thought and perhaps hold my eyelids open.

 

Coming soon, our new home and more…

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Goodbye July (pt 1) or Why I Hate July (pt 2)

August 1, 2009 · 1 Comment

I have been feeling BLEH for a while now.  My world is crazy busy and I haven’t had time, or made time, to chill out and relax or to recover from the icky headcold that has plagued me for weeks.  One of the benefits of the crazy busy is having July fly by without me having a chance to really have time to dwell, or perhaps I have allowed myself to be crazy busy in response to the fact that it is actually July.  Who knows? Anyway, July is almost over and I feel as if I have made it through unscathed.  Of course I am writing this on the evening of the 29th so there is still time, however I won’t publish until I have made it through the month.  

I have written before on here, this time last year about a few of the more painful reasons for why I hate July, other than the obvious cold weather.  Now it is time to finish off the Why I hate July saga with Part 2.  Last year I alluded to what was to come, I even mentioned it at the beginning of the month so now it is time to continue - the move from hell.  I imagine that this could become a long winded post, not only because it was an emotionally charged time of my life but because it was also extremely amazing in a craptastic kind of way.  To prepare you for what is to come (or so you can just skip to the end or the photos), I present you with bullet points

  • man-child working between Australia and the USA to get ready for the move that was to take place in July
  • the renovations needing renovating before the move
  • the relocation from hell and why it went wrong
  • the return to Australia feeling like I had given up, that I didn’t try and I had failed myself and my family

So here it is, Part 2 of Why I hate July.  This saga actually began sometime late in 2004 and not during the month of July.  To set the scene, boy-child was a very active and inquisitive almost 3 year old and girl-child had just turned 1.  I was back at work 3 days a week, juggling shift work and kid activities.  We had settled into our now not-so-new house and had just lived through renovating a house that didn’t need renovating.  Man-child had an awesome opportunity to work in the US and spent many months working 3 weeks in the US and 3 weeks here.  It was hard work single parenting.  I could manage the single part OK, it was the excitement during the weeks when we were all together that were hard, when routine and consistency were thrown out the window.  Trying to make the most of the crazy together times knowing that all to soon man-child would be flying out again, knowing that the kids didn’t understand why sometimes dad was here and sometimes he wasn’t.

As a family we decided that the commuting between countries wasn’t the lifestyle for us.  Instead of returning to work only in Australia, man-child was offered a permanent position working in the US.  It was his lifelong dream to work and be successful in the US and he had loved his time working there.  It seemed too good an opportunity to refuse and I was bored with work and in need of a change so we set about to try and make it happen.  He was still with the same company that had relocated us to New Zealand a few years previously so we knew it was a real opportunity.  We also knew that the company wasn’t going to hire a relocation consultant to assist with the move and the HR department didn’t have the experience to do it (other staff members who had been relocated and ended up with insane daily commutes because they weren’t aware of local conditions).  Being the control freak that I am, I was happy to do much of the research for the move.

Initially we offered to relocate for 3 months, using up all of the leave I had accrued but the powers that be thought hat 3 months would only be enough time to settle into the postion without actually getting anything done.  They wanted us there for a full year.  There was even talk of me working for the same company as I had previously worked for them and still knew their products.  

Things were starting to get serious – a full year in the US, awesome.  The next few months was all about getting organised for the move.  I would research online, finding neighbourhoods that sounded great, comparing school districts and child care, even looking at crime statistics in each area.  I would email my findings to man-child and he would check out the locations in real life.  I also began the process of arranging leave from work and doing the math on whether it was more cost effective to relocate our furniture or store it.  All of the math was based upon us being in the US for a year, until the ‘company’ decided that it was not worth doing if it was going to be less than 2 years, 3 would be even better.  I couldn’t fathom being away for 3 years, besides I may not have had a job to come back to after 3 years.  I could confirm my employment for a 2 year leave of absence so we negotiated and committed to a 2 year stay with the possibility of staying longer if it was working for everyone.  Still the whole idea of moving to the other side of the world was too good to be true.  

I re-did the math for the move and all of a sudden it was going to be more cost effective to ship all of our furniture rather than store an entire household (3 bedrooms and a study full).  Now up until recently we had crappy old furniture but post renovations we thought the new spaces deserved new, pretty and darn expensive furniture so just giving away all the furniture wasn’t an option.  We did the right thing and arranged for 3 independent quotes for shipping the furniture and with the backing of the HR department, we accepted a quote for shipping.  

Next thing we knew, the rules were changed.  The owner of the company, ever conscious of costs, offered to store our furniture for us, free of charge, in an unused yet clean and safe part of one of the buildings he owned.  Furthermore, he would allow us to purchase or hire the furniture we would require in our new apartment.  Fantastic – the shopping trip of a lifetime to fully furnish a place, all using someone else’s money.  We were able to cancel the shipping company without incurring costs, merely the embarrassment of being perceived as being incompetent.  

Next task on the to-do list, find renters for our house.  Despite saving money by not having to ship furniture, we couldn’t afford the mortgage here and living costs in the US.  We found friends of a friend who lived up the road who were looking to move and our place seemed perfect for them.  Just as we were about to draft up contracts, fortunately before they gave notice to their land lord, the ‘company’ had decided that they could rent our house to use for corporate short-stays and for when we would be in town.  It would be more affordable for them to pay our mortgage than it would for them to pay our accommodation costs when we were back in town.  

Of course by now, knowing that we weren’t going to ship our furniture and didn’t have to pay insane storage costs, we had given away or sold off all the furniture that we wouldn’t need in 2 years.  That included our bed (it was really old and in need of upgrading so we thought we would splurge when we returned) and all of the kids bedroom furniture.  Really, we would have no need for a cot and junior bed when the kids were going to be at least 3 and 5 when we were due to return.  In fact the only furniture we had not gotten rid of was the new furniture my beautiful leather lounge suit (that comes with a side story that is too long for this long post), teak TV cabinet and shelves and our new dining table and leather chairs.  Oh well, they could just fit out the bedrooms before they used the house, that wasn’t going to be a problem.  It also meant that we could leave all the whitegoods in place and leave the house stocked with crockery, cutlery and non perishable food items, as in the other company short-stay residences we had stayed in.  

We seemed all set for the move.  Visas granted, tickets purchased and accommodation sorted.  The apartment we were to move in to was to be re-carpeted and wouldn’t be available for 3 weeks after we arrived.  We didn’t mind, we could camp anywhere for 3 weeks.  We had visions of dodgy motels alongside a highway but it turned out that another couple who had been living in the area were moving back to Melbourne and the property they had been living in was available.  Man-child had stayed there, with them on previous visits and agreed that it would be better than staying in cramped motel lodgings so it was all sorted.  

Of course this all sounds far to simple and easy right.  Well during this time, when man-child was still doing the three week commute thing, I found that there was a leak in a downstairs pipe.  Now the water had flowed underneath the almost brand new solid wooden floor that had been laid as a part of the unnecessary renovation.  The entire floor was ruined, as were 2 walls.  The floors needed to be ripped out and that meant removing the still shiny new kitchen.  Thank god insurance covered the damage bill, but it was challenging.  I had to fight with them so they would understand that we couldn’t live in a house with no kitchen or floors with 2 young children.  Eventually they seemed to understand my dilemma and found local accommodation for us.  We had to move out for 2 weeks to allow for the kitchen to be removed, the floors removed and the sub-floor dried before a new floor being laid and the kitchen being put back together.  Living in a small third floor apartment with no elevators and 2 kids was challenging to say the least, especially as I was single parenting for most of that time.  Naturally we were supposed to be packing and getting organised for the move during these weeks but we couldn’t actually access our house!

So now the house is back together, we have packed.  We managed to get rid of copious amounts of toys and clothes, even books but we still packed up boxes and boxes of essential items to be shipped to the US to be there when we arrived.  The first shipments that went were off-season clothes, the following shipment was to be essential toys and all the books we had purchased about our new home.  Books about Princeton, about bike rides and holidays in New Jersey, about must see attractions in New York as well as books about kids activities in the Princeton area.  We were taking essential toys and kids books with us on the flight, as well as all the clothes that we were still wearing here, going from mid winter, as well as some clothes for summer in case our boxes never arrived.  We were fully loaded with the maximum we were allowed to take.  Hooray for the huge luggage limits when flying to the US – we were each allowed 2 suitcases plus carry on, a stroller, a baby backpack and a laptop.

Farewell parties were held, goodbyes were said.  Plans for friends to come and visit were made and we were all set to go, to embark on the biggest journey of our lives.  It was exciting, scary and homesick sad all in one go, but mainly exciting.

The day of departure finally arrived, the 3rd of July 2005 and with it my hatred of July was to be re-kindled.  Already this post is way too long before I even hit the good parts, I will continue in a new post shortly, one that has pretty pictures to accompany the many words!

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Reliving Childhood Memories

June 30, 2009 · 2 Comments

Many of my childhood memories involve a not-so-lifelike plastic doll.  Nothing big and blow up, merely a collection of almost 12 inch dolls.  I loved my Barbie dolls, in fact I collected Barbies for a quite a while and still have a shelf full of brand new dolls, still in boxes that girl-child is only able to look at, drool over and imagine playing with.  In actual fact it is clear that I still love my Barbies.  

To many she is a totally disproportionate representation of a woman but to me she is a woman who can do anything she chooses.  Yes she is totally misrepresents the true body of a woman but she is so elegant and beautiful, not to mention well dressed.  She may have a short attention span and change careers even more frequently than I have been known to, but she is accomplished in all of her chosen career paths.  Seriously, who else can be a teacher, astronaut, vet and olympian as well as a business woman and socialite with family and friends who clearly love her (and boyfriends with plastic underwear).  

Anyway, I loved and still love Barbie.  I can remember writing Christmas wish lists when all I wanted was a Barbie.  The weeks of anticipation, wondering if I had been good enough for Santa to get me a Barbie, especially when all I wanted was Western Barbie and Dallas her horse.  Apparently I was a really good girl that year because not only was Western Barbie and Dallas there waiting for me under the Christmas tree, but Barbie was there in her 4wd jeep and towing a horse trailer.  I was over the moon – it was the best Christmas present EVER.  (OK, so Loving You Barbie that I received the following year was actually the best Barbie that I ever received but she was also the cause of or at least part of a terrifying series of nightmares but that is another story for another time entirely.  Now that I have moved on from the nightmares I can raise her to the status of my favourite Barbie).

I love Barbies so much that I have shared my love for the plastic doll with girl-child.  (I have also shared my hatred of other similar sized dolls with oversized heads and skanky clothing with her.)  She was given her first Barbie doll when she was 3, the same year that she inherited the huge doll house that dad made for me when I was younger.  I really wanted Barbie to have the same significance for her as she does for me.  She loves her dolls but unfortunately she doesn’t treasure them the same way as I do.  I think that the main reason for this is because she has so many.  In the last clean up of her dolls she had more than 20 Barbies as well as dozens of Kelly dolls (that’s Barbie’s little sister), it is no wonder they aren’t so precious to her.  Now the dolls are so inexpensive that it isn’t uncommon for her to receive half a dozen or so more than one for a birthday.  I have even been guilty of allowing girl-child to give her friends a Barbie for a birthday gift.  I even have vague recollections of giving a Barbie just for the hell of it.  It is no wonder they are losing their significance.  

Now back in my day Barbies were expensive.  You didn’t just get a Barbie doll for the hell of it, only for a birthday or for Christmas.  In fact a Barbie doll was your main present for Christmas.  They were an item wished for and if you were lucky enough to have a Barbie or one of her friends you treasured them and looked after them right up until you were too old and too cool to play with Barbies and then you practiced your hairdressing skills.  Not that I ever cut my Barbie doll’s hair, I only played hairdresser with my sister’s dolls!  I did manage to amass many Barbies over my childhood and I still have them now, they are at my parents house and I love it when girl-child drags them out to play.

So I have lost the point of this post, the part where I shared my love for the disproportionate doll with my daughter.  To cut to the chase, the Forever Barbie Exhibition celebrating 50 years of Barbie beauty is in town so to celebrate a few of us went along to check it out.  

We were there the day after the exhibition opened, arriving just after it opened for the day at 10.  Already there was a queue to get in but fortunately it moved along quickly and we were inside in only a few minutes.  We wandered around looking at all of the dolls.  There were some dolls from my childhood there, as well as many dolls that are still on my wish list.  My favourite part of the exhibition were the dolls that children had dressed and the captions that were written under them.  

Naturally, at the end of the exhibition there was a merchandise area.  You should have seen the crowds with huge shopping bundles.  Now I know that I have just said that Barbies are inexpensive, I wasn’t referring to these dolls, these dolls were kind of expensive.  It wasn’t just the dolls that were expensive the other merchandise was insanely expensive.  Tiny tins of mints for $20, carry bags from $60, after that I pretty much ignored the price tags on everything else there.  I did give in and purchase girl-child and her friend another doll.  I know, another doll but this one was special, girl-child was able to customised it.  They had computers set up where you could choose your own doll from a limited selection and then choose the clothes that she would wear.  After you printed out the picture of your doll and paid for her she was ‘made’ for you to specification.  Once she was made the doll paraded around the catwalk before being boxed up and then delivered.  Girl-child was so excited to make her own doll and then have it made for her, it was definitely worth the insane price tag.  

Milla and her Milla Barbie

Milla and her Milla Barbie

 

 

It was a great morning sharing my memories of Barbie with girl-child and her friend.  If this is what the holidays are going to be like I am looking forward to them.

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My Eight

June 5, 2009 · 6 Comments

So I mentioned in my last post that I have some bloggy goodness to celebrate and share.  First off, Lea from over at the Whites in New Zealand I have been tagged to do ‘8 Things’, so here goes

To do list (i.e. “the rules”):
1. Mention the person who tagged me. 
2. Complete the list of 8’s.
3. Tag 8 bloggers & tell them I tagged them.

Eight things I am looking forward to:

1. Becoming an Aunt in October.
2. Enjoying part of the long weekend as a DINK and then the remainder with extended family.
3. Surprisingly, I am looking forward to working part of this weekend.
4. Being a DINK and going out for a birthday dinner tonight and not having to consider getting home early to the sitter.  Did I mention pre-dinner drinks tonight?
5. Welcoming Pommy Boy back to Melbourne.
6. Birthday cakes – a friends tonight, Pommy Boy’s tommorrow and Lil Sis’s on Sunday.
7. Sleeping in and not waking to a bomb site
8. Meeting heart friends soon, but not soon enough.

Eight things I did yesterday:
1. Got to see Billy swimming and causing trouble in-utero (all appears to be well at this stage)
2. Facilitated a soccer program for local kids who know much more about soccer than I do.
3. Intervened in a heated discussion amongst primary school students about who has the best religion.
4. Played netball badly and lost.  We were robbed I tell you!
5. Was cajoled into having a full body massage – free of charge!  It is oh-so-tragic when a neighbour knocks on the door begging for your assistance, ‘Can I borrow your body, I have to practise for my exam on massage!’
6. Convinced my kids that it was OK to wag school for a day if you were going to go to nan and pop’s house for a holiday.  It was actually harder than I anticipated.
7. Sat around listening to a bunch of guys trying to sing along to songs from their glory days.
8. Laughed (a lot) at the word substitution that was taking place in above mentioned songs when they forgot the lyrics.

Eight things I wish I could do:
1. Find some time to craft and create.
2. If I find time to craft, find a way to ensure that I don’t leave a whirlwind of disaster in my wake.
3. Say no to unreasonable or unrealistic people and requests.
4. Go on a holiday and totally relax.
5. Wake up one morning and find that my bathrooms have been renovated.
6. Teach the geriatric cat that there are better places to sleep than on my head.
7. Eat wheat and dairy products without ill effects.
8. Get a really great camera and learn how to use it.  

Eight shows I watch:
1. House
2. Castle
3. Bones
4. NCIS
5. Satisfaction – well I have started to watch the first few eps and loved it, I must borrow the series
6. True Blood – I need to borrow this series too
7. Doll House – when I get time to watch/stream a series that isn’t here yet
8. Dr Horrible’s Sing Along Blog on my iPhone whenever I get the chance.

Eight favorite fruits:

1. Mango
2. Bananas
3. Mandarins
4. Kiwi
5. Bananas
6. Peaches
7. Pears
8. Watermelon

Eight places I’d like to travel:
1. New York (again – unfinished business)
2. Tokyo to visit friends
3. Thailand to explore and to totally relax
4. Bali – I think I am the only Aussie who hasn’t been there
5. Florida, something about gators and swamps and lots of retirees fascinates me
6. New Zealand, revisit favourite places in the North Island and begin exploring the south
7. All around Australia, especially the top end
8. Realistic, I will go anywhere I just can’t afford to!

Eight places I’ve lived:

1. Tungamah, a tiny country town in north east Victoria
2. Pascoe Vale, in 2 different houses within a 10 month period
3. Kensington, for the third time
4. Ascot Vale, the first house I owned
5. Wellesley St Auckland
6. Blawenburg, near Princeton NJ for the a mere month
7. OK, I am clutching now – a serviced apartment in Flemington for three weeks when our house flooded and had to have a new floor laid and kitchen re-installed
8. I’ve got nothing else, but I spend holidays in Yarrawonga on the NSW/Victoria border, does that count?

 

People I’ve tagged:
In no particular order -

Callipipertree

My Little Drummer Boys

Freckle Face Girl

A Cranberry Blog

Craftivist

Lost in Smith Street (see you soon!)

Perhaps we Learn

Turning Japanese

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